You feel reasonably contented most of the time with occasional spikes of happiness (and maybe the odd 'downer')
You don't have 300 unopened emails in your inbox
You strive – but don't expect to be perfect
You don't take things too personally and if it seems that way you can tell yourself "It's not my problem if they think that way anyway"
You have a healthy sense of control – you are not overwhelmed and things aren't getting away from you (have a plan – remember the brain loves a plan)
Even if things are going badly for you, you have a healthy sense of perspective ("Even if the worst case scenario happens – it won't be the end of the world")
You are able to set time aside for yourself to do enjoyable things and be content to be by yourself
You are able to like yourself with all your loveliness and your faults
You are able to forgive yourself for your perceived iniquities
You are able to self-sooth through encouraging self-talk and the occasional self-hug
You are able to accept discomfort – (for example Stress/ Anxiety/ Depression) – and know that it will pass
You are able to practice worry control and stop ruminations ("Stop – go away – don't want you now!"). Don't forget to re-focus or distract afterwards.
You know which coping mechanisms work for you (e.g. the 6 second breath – action and distraction)
You nurture healthy relationships with partners, family, friends - and yourself
You are able to be patient
You persist – even when the going is tough
You adopt a positive attitude and you are able to adjust your attitude when you mindfully notice it could do with an adjustment
You do not adopt a victim mentality and take up your own power
You are kind and compassionate to yourself and others
You are able to find something to be grateful for every day
If things get too tough – remember talking to someone is the way to go.